This idea never occurred to me until recently when a female friend asked me why men always have affairs more than their partners(girlfriends/spouses) even though they are in a relationship.The first thing that came to my mind though was....you rather ask a relationship-psychologist. However on the second thought it was worth trying. I therefore embarked on a mission of fact finding, asking a number of male friends(not like in a formal survey)the same question. I got a bunch of responses though.The reason why men (married and unmarried)cheat on women may sometimes involve simply an ego based decision and sometimes it may relate to a bad relationship,and even lack of it.
If a man has a disinterested partner there is a good chance he will have an affair;men will sometimes cheat to get a way from an argumentative partner;some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a humburger.That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners. The other aspect is that when a couple do not have as much in common as they thought,and finally meets a female who shares the same interests he may check out if he is more comfortable with her under the sheets.Here is the bomb.... If you have forgiven a cheating partner a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.
Anyway, the reason why men cheat can be more complex than the ones mentioned above or even be a different combinations of reasons.Nevertheless, no reason is good enough reason to lie and be dishonest.
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The courting game can be compared to a hunter-prey scenario where man takes the role of the former and woman the latter. It's human trait to have sexual desires and yearn affection from someone you are attracted to. In nature in most cases the male takes the initiative whereas the female plays a more passive role, giving hints (green light ) for the hunter to go ahead or reject his advances therefore due to this i can conclude that men do more about their needs than women.
Another trait attributed to the hunters is that their testosterone or macho character drives them to yearn as many trophies as possible.
Nevertheless as human beings we ought to have decorum and dignify our top position in the animal kingdom hierarchy by controlling our emotions.
mtembezi is right , words of wisdom. I just want tell we just need to spread our dna, it is our male instinct.
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